All About Happiness - A column by Sandy Galiano.Has anyone ever told you to dig deeper? Did you ever feel so close to something but you had to keep digging? There are times when we must keep going while at other times we have to face the fact that enough is enough. Let’s take a look at the digging, whether we do it with a shovel or down on our knees with our hands. Whether we’re digging a hole in the sand or in the dirt, in the end what we make is a hole in the ground. That hole is as deep as we dig it. We may not even know the depth of our emotions, yet we can measure it by taking a look at our trenches.
We Don't Know When We Have To StopFor example, in desperation and anxieties our minds tumble around our many thoughts. Simultaneously and unconsciously these frustrations encourage us to keep digging without realizing when we must stop. The digging becomes an automatic movement where we don’t even recognize how we continue to dig deeper. The reason is that we feel so close to what we are looking for that we don’t stop. And yet, even though part of us keeps digging, another part of us may know there is no reason to continue. So, if someone has ended a relationship with you, there is a tendency to keep going back for more, to keep calling and to leave hundreds of messages. These actions come from the root of knowing you can’t let go of this person, yet it becomes unconscious when it feels like you can’t stop reaching out. Dig deep in frustration and all you are doing is burying yourself. So how do you learn to let go?
Make Your Peace Or Dig Forever
You can either throw yourself into the hole or you can choose something better. You can choose to gently place your past into the hole and lower it in as you bid farewell. You can even place a rose (or three) on top before the burial is final. Just like we bury our loved ones and never forget them, so it is with our past. We never forget it. We place it in a loving place we can visit whenever we feel we need to... whether joyous, sad, or desperate. The past does not provide the answers if we ask. Therefore, consciously placing in a safe place will allow us to be at peace with it. It doesn’t mean it never happened or it never hurt. It just means its over, time that you learn to let go and move on.