Are You Vulnerable?

Jamie Silverstein
Are You Vulnerable?

I cry alot. I eat food out of jars. I asked a yoga class that I was teaching if they wanted to “do me” the other day. (MAJOR Whoops!) And, my relationships, both with myself and others, constantly need work. Simply, I am a very fallible person.

Or, maybe, I am just me (and, that’s not bad).

Perfect Is Not Real: Vulnerability Paradox

You see, I made a deal with myself awhile back that I would give myself permission to be more authentic. I would own my mistakes, and, instead of shaming myself, I would practice forgiveness and compassion. I would figure out a way to lighten my negative self-talk. I would stop being a shit to myself.

This deal has been the hardest undertaking of my life thus far.

Having suffered the ails and illusions of perfectionism for much of my athletic career, I knew I needed to find a different way to inhabit my life. I was looking for a perspective that didn’t make me feel like a fraud or somehow (according to whom?!!) ‘not enough’. I soon realized, I was looking for permission to be vulnerable. Every. Single. Day.

What Is Vulnerability?

But, what is embodied vulnerability? Do I struggle with it because I’m afraid of it or because it’s unfamiliar?

(Or, because vulnerability means I don’t always have my stuff ‘together’...)

Below is my working definition of vulnerability. This is also the heart of my practice.

  1. Vulnerability means my needs and my humanity are more valuable than my shame / ego
  2. Vulnerability means I do not have to be perfect to be perfectly myself
  3. Vulnerability means it’s okay for me to need an extra hug sometimes
  4. Vulnerability means I’m trusting you (and me) with me
  5. Vulnerability means I’m willing to share where I’m at… (See Photos)
  6. Vulnerability is permission to be.

Brene Brown writes: “Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” If I want to be connected both to myself and to my life, I need to allow it to happen. I need to be real. I need to be vulnerable. And, I need for that to be okay.

And, so do you… Because, dear friends, it already is.